According to Tosca Reno, I need to dig deep and excavate the reason I fear success. So I made a list of my fears. Just be warned: I'm a little bit whiny in this post!
1. I fear that if I lose the weight that I want to lose, I will just gain it back again. About 2 years ago I lost 13 pounds. I worked with a personal trainer and I ate the meals that she assigned me. I kept the weight off for a few months, but it slowly crept back this past year and a half. At the time, I thought that I would continue eating like that forever, but after awhile I picked up my old habits and I gained all of it back. This past year I went from drinking 1 can of diet soda to 44 ounces. I also was eating up to 3 sweets per day. I'm afraid that I will resume those old habits.
2. I'm afraid that I will have to buy all new clothes. I have some items of clothes that I really like, that I don't want to get rid of. Some of my jeans were a little bit pricey and they are super cute. I know this is really a dumb fear, but I don't enjoy clothes shopping. I'm a little bit embarrassed to admit this fear, but I'm just being honest.
3. I'm afraid of being offensive when I don't eat the food others have prepared. I have 3 sisters and in the past much of our socializing has involved food. In the next 2 months I will be spending 3 weekends at 2 of my sisters homes and I have anxiety about taking my own food. I also spend a lot of time with my sister that lives 3 miles away from me and we eat at her house often. I don't want to be rude when they prepare food that I won't be eating.
4. I'm afraid of being embarrassed. I have found that when I tell people about eating clean, most people are critical of it. The only exception so far has been my hair dresser. She even liked The Eat Clean Diet on Facebook. I get so tired of being told "oh yeah, you can't eat that."
On Friday, I went to lunch with some of my extended family. I told them to choose where they wanted to go. As I was leaving work, my friend said something about how she thought that I wasn't able to eat out because she thought I was on a diet. I told her that I'm choosing not to eat out as much as I used to, but still it was frustrating.
My family decided on a bagel place. Usually I get the lunch special- bagel sandwich, soup or salad, and a diet coke. This time I got just the bagel sandwich. It was still a "treat" though because the sandwich had chipotle mayo and bacon on it. When we sat down I was asked why I didn't get the salad, which is doused in mayo and has cornbread and cheese in it. Then I only at my sandwich with half of the bagel. Someone else snickered and asked what I was saving the other half for (which I threw away). Then after the meal, the 4 of them, shared 2 cookies. I'm happy to say that I didn't even have a taste.
When I left, instead of being proud of myself for not consuming probably 1000 extra calories, I felt totally dejected. This is my family, people that should be supporting me not criticizing me. Also, I have lost 10 pounds. I'm very excited about this, but not one of them seemed to notice. Like I said, I felt totally dejected and also irritated that they don't get it.
5. This fear is also referred to by one of my sisters as FOMO or fear of missing out. I have already turned down a few lunch invites, dessert at Chilis for a friend's birthday, and going out to dinner with friends. I'm afraid that if I continue to turn down invites, it will ruin some of these invitations. I just don't want to waste my "treats" every week on eating mediocre food at a chain restaurant.
6. The last fear I will address is that I'm afraid of explaining this lifestyle to people. As I mentioned in the past, when I do tell people about eating clean, their responses have been critical. I don't feel like I should have to defend myself. It's my life, my body and the choices I'm making are only going to effect me positively. I also don't want to be mocked, so I haven't told anyone (except for my blog and my clean eating buddy, Priscilla) that I have decided that I can get a bikini body. I'm afraid that my friends and family will be critical of that goal.
So, I have dug deep and excavated my fears, now I just need to overcome these fears so that I can reach my goals.